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| The marriage problem female nurses face |
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| Saturday, 27 November 2010 11:18 |
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An interesting translated report from Al-Watan, published by Arab News, puts a spotlight on the profession of nurses and how the society views it. Female nurses are finding it difficult to get married and often times their husbands put pressure on them to quit this field. Though it has been mentioned as a Saudi problem that Saudi nurses are facing, this is an issue in other societies as well.
If we only look through the spectrum of how "attitudes must change" and that "there should be more acceptance", as the media usually says, we will be totally missing the point and may never arrive at a solution.
Excerpts with some comments below: “The number of young Saudi women joining nursing courses is on the rise. There are more than 5,000 Saudi female nurses in the Eastern Region alone. We have managed to achieve 50 percent Saudization in the government health sector,” said Sharifa Al-Zayed, director of the Nursing Department at the Health Affairs Directorate in the Eastern Region. Many Saudi women have managed to succeed in this profession in spite of overwhelming opposition, especially from their family members, notably husbands, something that often affects how well they perform their jobs. The main causes of this are husbands who do not want their wives to work shifts and attend to male patients. In fact, many Saudi nurses struggle to find husbands because of their professions. Even those Saudi males in the medical field refuse to marry nurses, Al-Watan newspaper reported. Abrar is studying to become a nurse at Dammam University. “Our society looks at this profession in a negative way even though nursing is a lofty profession and has a strong humanitarian aspect to it,” she said, recounting how one of her classmates was turned down by a prospective husband after he came to know she was studying to become a nurse. She added that another one of her classmates switched over to another course after two years because of her husband. “Another classmate had a similar bitter experience. Her husband told her to discontinue the course if her academic performance was found to be unsatisfactory,” she added. Ramia, who is on the same course as Abrar, criticized the negative way with which young Saudi men view nursing graduates. “Many doctors also refuse to marry nurses,” she said. Nouf, another classmate, is finding it difficult to find a husband. “A young man had proposed to marry me. His mother then came to see me and it was then that she learned that I was a nursing student. The next day, she telephoned my family to break the engagement saying her son does not want to marry a nurse,” she said. For Abrar the future is bright. Her fiancé wants her to work as a nurse. Her fiancé works at a hospital himself and has promised to help find her a job there. Ahmad Aseeri, a marriage official in Abha, said nearly 90 percent of young men who visit him prefer working women to housewives. “However, about 60 percent of those who are marrying for the first time don’t want nurses. They cite several factors for this, such as unsociable working hours, gender mixing and stuff like that,” he said. Salama Al-Atwi, a marriage official in Tabuk, said some young men who refuse to marry nurses fail to understand the important role they play in society. “Once a young man proposed to marry one of his relatives. He knew full well that she was a nursing student and that her elder sister worked as a nurse. After the marriage was fixed, the girl’s family insisted she be allowed to work as a nurse after she graduates, but he totally refused and the marriage was called off,” he said. According to Al-Atwi, an overwhelming majority of young men in the age group between 20 and 30 do not want to marry nurses. Dr. Ghazi Al-Shamri, head of the Family Solidarity Committee at the Eastern Region Governorate who is also supervisor of the family website Tusafeena (be honest with one another), said that even some doctors are hesitant to marry nurses. “Most of the doctors working with the Ministry of Health do not want to marry women working in the same sector. There are several factors for this, including long hours, shift work and gender mixing. The high salaries that female doctors receive also sometimes leads to bitter disputes between couples,” he said, adding that he knows of several divorces in which the couples were both doctors. “However, this cannot be generalized. There are several couples in which both husband and wife are doctors and they’re leading happily married lives,” he said, adding that the problems that female nurses face are not restricted to the Kingdom but also exist in other GCC states. I don't think the vast majority consider nursing in of itself a demeaning job. Most would agree that it's an honorable profession. However, what is required is there be consideration for all other factors to make the profession more suitable to women and plausible for marriage. Because under current conditions, a female nurse may not be able to devote time for her family, and men who want to marry are looking for a wife, a woman, not another "man" who has to work for long hours. This is leading to such women not being married at all! Polygamy is a good solution, but, really, let's tackle this problem at its roots. If there could be special work timings for women, e.g. a 4 hour duty time instead of 8 and conditions more favorable like more women-managed departments, I think significant strides can be achieved. There would be more women willing to join the profession. More nurses would be trained and employed. The tendency to drop out of work after marriage would reduce. And it also won't affect family life. Be creative, Saudi Arabia, be creative! |










